Whether parents should help children to do their homework or encourage them to do is by themselves has sparked widespread debate among many parents, educators and developmental psychologists in China. In most cases, I believe that in order for children to become confident and responsible adults in the future, parents should try their best to motivate their children to finish tasks without parental assistance. First, encouraging children to do their work independently helps children build self-confidence. For example, when I was a little boy, my parents worked late every night, and they would often encourage me to finish many tasks on my own. At first, I was worried because everything seemed difficult for a little boy. However, finally, I could cook dinner for my family, bathe my younger brother, and do the grocery shopping for my mother. Thanks to my childhood experience, I am a confident and optimistic young man, ready to take on new challenges in life. Obviously, parents should give their children every opportunity to develop self-confidence and never underestimate their childrens potential. Second, the best way to teach children responsibility is to encourage them to finish tasks on their own. For example, my neighbor Helen always seizes every opportunity to encourage her son Ken, a five-year-old boy, to finish tasks alone. Therefore, Ken makes his own bed, cleans his own room, and most important of all, washes and walks the dog. In contrast, my friend Robert, an overprotective and indulgent parent, is always worried about his only son Leo, a ten-year-old boy. Whenever Leo tries to do something, Robert will give his son as much help as he can, so Leo has formed the habit of turning to his father no matter how easy the task is. Worse still, he gives up easily when he faces challenges or frustrations. Childrens over-reliance on their parents has a detrimental effect on their psychological development. The best way to help children become responsible is to encourage children to do things without assistance from their parents. Admittedly, in some cases, parents should not hesitate to help their children do their work. In fact, when tasks are potentially dangerous, parents should give their children necessary assistance to ensure safety. For example, parents can teach their children cooking, but they should always show their children the right way to handle a knife and use a stove, rather than just allow their children to experiment and make disastrous mistakes, because some mistakes may inflict irreparable mental or physical harm on children. However, generally I believe that encouraging children to do their work independently is the best way to help them become confident, responsible adults in the future.
父母是否应该帮助孩子做功课或鼓励他们做的是自己已经引起了许多家长的广泛讨论，中国的教育工作者和心理学家。在大多数情况下，我认为，为了让孩子在未来变得自信和负责任的成年人，父母应该尽力去激励他们的孩子没有父母的帮助下完成任务。第一，鼓励孩子去做他们的工作，帮助孩子建立自信独立。例如，当我还是个小男孩的时候，我的父母工作到很晚，他们经常鼓励我完成许多任务对我自己。首先，我很担心，因为一切都似乎很难给一个小男孩。然而，最后，我可以为我的家人做饭吃饭，洗澡，我的弟弟，做为妈妈的杂货店购物。感谢我的童年经验，我是一个自信、乐观的年轻人，准备迎接新生活的挑战。显然，父母应该给孩子一个发展机会，自信，永远不要低估孩子的潜力。其次，教给孩子们的责任，最好的办法是鼓励他们完成任务自己。例如，我的邻居海伦总是抓住每一个机会鼓励她的儿子肯，一个五岁的男孩，独自完成任务。因此，肯让自己的床，打扫自己的房间，最重要的是，洗走的狗。相比之下，我的朋友罗伯特，一个过分保护和溺爱的父母，总是担心自己唯一的儿子利奥，零岁的男孩。当利奥试图做些什么，罗伯特会给他的儿子尽他所能的帮助，所以狮子座形成了转向他的父亲无论任务多么容易的习惯。更糟糕的是，他轻易放弃时，他面临的挑战或挫折。儿童对父母的依赖已经对他们的心理发展产生不利影响。帮助孩子成为负责任的最好办法是鼓励孩子做的事情没有父母的帮助。诚然，在某些情况下，父母应该毫不犹豫地帮助他们的孩子做他们的工作。事实上，当任务的潜在危险，父母应该给孩子以保证安全必要的协助。例如，父母可以教孩子做饭，但他们应该给孩子把刀和使用电炉的正确途径，而不是让自己的孩子实验做出灾难性的错误，因为有些错误可能会对孩子造成不可弥补的心理或生理上的危害。然而，我认为，鼓励孩子去做他们的工作是帮助他们成为独立自信的最佳方式，在未来负责任的成年人。