Important decisions are those that will have a significant or lasting impact on a persons life. Oftentimes such a decision is difficult to make because the consequences are considerable or because the decisions circumstances and implications are complex. As a result, people will consult friends and family for their opinions to get a better understanding of the situation. Seeking advice is helpful because it helps to avoid pitfalls and precludes carelessness, but in the end the person who has to live with the decision should make it by himself/herself. Discussing important decisions with others can be beneficial, especially if the person one is conferring with has experience with the problem at hand. For example, in order to be able to decide between continuing ones education after finishing four years of university studies and finding a job, it is helpful to talk to people who have made this decision. A person who decided to find gainful employment will probably give different advice than a person who decided to stay in school. Listening attentively to both will allow a person to make the best assessment of his/her own situation as he/she will be able to learn from others experiences. At the same time, one should consider the opinions and feelings of the people who will be impacted by his/her decision. For example, husband and wife should confer with each other before making up their mind to quit or change a job. After all, the change of a job can impact many aspects of their life together, such as the household income or the amount of time they can spend together. However, one should not allow or even ask others to make an important decision on ones behalf. After all, he/she will be the one with all the information at his/her disposal, especially after seeking advice from others. Ultimately, the person who has to live with the decision (in so far as it is a personal decision that does not affect others directly in a significant way) should take complete responsibility and make it himself/herself.
重要的决定是那些对一个人的生活有着重大或持久的影响。通常，这样的决定是很难做的因为后果相当或由于决策的情况和影响是复杂的。因此，人们会向朋友和家人征求他们的意见，以更好地了解情况。寻求建议是有用的因为它有助于避免陷阱和排除粗心大意，但最终人与决定生活应该让它自己。与其他人讨论重要的决定是有益的，特别是当一个人在与手头的问题有经验时。例如，为了能在完成四年的大学学业和找到工作后决定继续接受教育，有助于与那些做出这个决定的人交谈。一个人决定找到有报酬的工作，可能会比一个人决定留在学校的不同意见。倾听这两种情况都会让人对自己的处境做出最好的评价，因为他/她可以从别人的经验中学习。在同一时间，一个应该考虑的意见和感情的人谁将受到影响，他/她的决定。例如，丈夫和妻子在决定放弃或改变一份工作之前，应该互相商议。毕竟，一个工作的变化可以影响到他们生活的很多方面，比如家庭收入，或者他们可以一起度过的时间。然而，一个人不应该允许甚至要求别人对某人做出重要的决定。毕竟，他/她将是一个与所有的信息，在他/她的处理，特别是在寻求别人的意见。最终，要生活在这个决定的人应该承担完全的责任，并使之成为自己。